| parrotputz
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 Posted - 11/30/2011 : 19:32:24
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ew,ew Xaos, that fell really nice
on my ears. I added to favorites
to check this group out later.
THANKS
Parrot
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| parrotputz
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Posted - 11/30/2011 : 19:52:09
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Jordartha...I'm so very sorry about the
betrayals that have happened to you, I really
am.
Perhaps, you need to be upfront with
any potential mate...that any kind
of behind the back talking is a deal breaker, right
from the start.
Jody, I have to tell you, I didn't know what
to think of you at first.
Your very illusive...and rather sophisticated
in ways that are a bit foreign to me.
I didn't see your pain as an individual, but
measured it against what I PERCEIVE to be
everyone elses pain here.
Again, I'm so sorry.
W has done it to me also, discussed my
meltdowns with his family.
Of course it's kind of hard to hide when you
have stitches in your eyes and a
blackened face from running into a tree lol.
But I understand where your coming from. I
understand your need for confidentiality.
I understand that in your profession
it's paramount to have and keep that privacy.
And your family, well, just what on Earth
makes them so priviledged and special
that what they think matters that much.
They are flawed for the betrayals...NOT YOU.
I've learned a lesson from you...not to
take things at face value...and to get to know
a person, before making judgements.
People have done the same thing to me, and I
think for much the same reason...this is why.
PEOPLE WHO CAN'T OR WON'T SHOW THEIR PAIN, ARE
NOT THOUGHT TO BE SUFFERING.
How sad is that?
What you said about measuring pain in social
resonated with me.
You said that pain is how the patient
says they are experiencing it. We shouldn't
make assumptions, but take their
word for it. They are suffering as much
as they say they are...period.
Please believe me when I say, that my heart
has gone out to you on more than one occasion.
But sometimes, I don't know how to express
that without feeling that I would
worsen the situation by saying the wrong thing.
People here do care about you, and there
are people out here in society that
care...they are out there.
I hope your well, and must say thank you
for your honesty. I don't always
like looking at things from a different
perspective than what I'm comfortable
with...but that's how we learn.
Linda
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| parrotputz
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Posted - 12/01/2011 : 08:21:35
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Keith...your more than welcome.
I've loved that song since
I was a kid.
seeing clearly does not
necessarily guarantee peace or happiness. It does, however, offer
the opportunity for solutions which can lead there.
I so agree, and you stated it perfectly.
Once a person can see clearly, it opens
up new opportunites for solutions.
Sometimes I analyze too much, think too
much about solutions.
But the odd thing is, when I just trust
that I know enough, and have come far
enough along to settle into whatever
life throws....then it all seems
to fall into place...without me
ever really knowing why.
Hope your well, and that one of these
days, happiness and peace lands
upon you when you least expect it.
Linds
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| metasegue
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Posted - 12/01/2011 : 12:41:29
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"When I just trust
that I know enough, and have come far
enough along to settle into whatever
life throws....then it all seems
to fall into place...without me
ever really knowing why."
The above statement ties in with this one from your "Wimp" thread:
"You give a little for the right reason, and
you will receive in return..that's
how it always seems to work."
If you like yourself and trust yourself I think there's some sort of
spiritual principle that actually does make things "Fall into place".
I think these qualities are strong in you...more so than I. It seems
to be about selfless motives generating real time positive results.
I'll have to dwell on that thought for awhile.
I don't mean to monopolize the dialogue here. To that end, I'll take
a break til Sunday and let others interact and enjoy.
Keith
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| jodartha
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Posted - 12/01/2011 : 13:23:26
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Per usual...I like your thoughts Keith...
Particularly:
If you like yourself and trust yourself I think there's some sort of
spiritual principle that actually does make things "Fall into place".
I get down often, particularly at night. I think I have been significantly traumatized to feel like I strongly dislike my life often. I often feel like it will never get better.
Gut instinct does have value. I just doubt myself because I can be wrong and not enough has worked out in my life for me to be confident anymore. Things haven't fallen into place. Do I have to be 65 before my life isn't so hard and painful at times. |
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| parrotputz
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Posted - 12/03/2011 : 09:56:19
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Keith...hey, thanks for the post.
Hope your well today...and
the WI. is kind to you.
I was thinking that giving...seems
to do as much for me as the
other person...because it makes
me feel good.
I feel centered and there aren't
any trust issues or
walls that I have to deal with.
Just one human being giving to
another.
I think other people pick up on
that, and it makes them feel
good....then they reciprocate.
But, I understand that when a person
has been burned so many times, especially
in society where there are hunters
of the predatory kind, that
walls do and will go up. I've been
there and done that.
In this state of mind, who the heck
feels like giving anything?
I've been in this state of mind
too.
But for me, it's too dang stuffy
and I feel closed up emotionally.
So, what the heck, I decided to
be more like myself and reach
out to others more out here.
But everyone surely can't be like
me...our society would fall apart lol.
So, people like W are needed for
balance and logic.
OK, enough of my ramblings.
Off to make a go of Saturday here
directly.
Take good care.
Linds
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| parrotputz
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Posted - 12/03/2011 : 10:05:05
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Jody...I hope your doing OK.
The condidence thing, that's a hard
one to manage..isn't it?
I know what you mean.
I am not overly confident by any stretch
of the imagination.
It's just that I've lived with this
illness for so long, that after
awhile...the "what I can't do's" get
so old and painful, that
the "what can I do's" seem to be the
only thing that moves me along.
If a person is waiting for the perfect
person, the perfect job, the perfect
life, well heck, they'll be waiting
a lifetime.
I can honestly tell you, that I have
a personality disorder, MG, and BP.
Who would think that I could ever be
happy..I mean...really?
But happiness does land upon this
gals shoulders often enough.
It's just too painful to keep retracing
my mistakes, and too immobilizing to
define myself by all that I am not.
I don't have all the answers for my
life....but know that I'm worth
something. And so are you, and
everyone else here.
Just my thoughts.
I do hope your well, and hope
that soon, you'll see all
that you are...not what you
are not.
Linda
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