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ff9153
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 Posted - 01/26/2011 : 10:30:48
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I got married last Nov and 3 days after marriage, caught my wife writing her ex boyfriend. I confroonted her about it and she said she was sorry. From then on, she continued to write him and several more men, but I loved her so much I stayed. She said I didn't trust her and that she couldnt live with someone that didn't trust her. She told me over the course of the year we were married that she didn't know if she loved me, that she wanted a divorce, and that she didn't want to be married, but the next day she was fine and we did things and enjoyed each other's company. She is a nurse of 33 years. She continued to write men on line and told me her myspace account was her private life. I told her that since we were married she had nothing that she should be hiding from me. Finally in October, I lost my job and then in November, she told me to leave. She lives in TX and I live in TN now. I can't find work. I lost my home because I went to live with her when we got married and couldn't sell it. My kids meant nothing to her, but like a fool, I still love her. She was having an affair with her ex boyfriend the last month I was there because I saw them and her at his house. I just loved her so much, I didn't want to lose her. Now, I have nothing. I live with my daughter in an apartment with her husband and 2 kids. I am at the end of my rope. I suffer from clinical depression and have for years.
Michael Craig  |
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| FLMgirl
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Posted - 01/26/2011 : 11:11:11
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Michael,
I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. It must be hard to think you are going down the road together, only to have your wife push you off the path. Though I have never been married, it has always been my belief that marriage is a joining of 2 lives into 1 life, and that all is shared.
You may not have a wife, or a job, but you do have your children and grandchildren, and your self. While looking/waiting for a job, take some time to renew yourself, reflectr, resolve, deep breathe, and hang in there.
Hanging in here at MT is a good place to spend time. It is what it is, and it is my therapy, and I have found it to be helpful, and hope you will too. Feel free to post anywhere you want, the most action is over on 'topics common to all...', but many of us get around to alol the boards.
Oh, and most people don't use their full names here, possibly from fear of employers and such finding them here. For me, though I don't use my whole name, but, depression is a large part of my life and who I am, and if I do a good job, then they can't discriminate against me for my illness.
You can change your posts for 24 hrs, so whatever... Again, WELCOME!
Leigh
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| Rainbowfish
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Posted - 01/29/2011 : 16:01:09
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Michael~ I too have been through it, lost my home, he even took my baby daughter when she was only 3! And I was a good mom, no drug abuse. He had affairs all the time, too. I won't get into that. I just wish to welcome you here and hope you will return and post again. It helps to have someplace where you can talk about it. We are caring, compassionate people who understand this level of pain.
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dealing with depressions caused by divorce
