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Marine_Vet
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 Posted - 11/11/2005 : 03:43:25
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Well I take this drug for my PTSD. I use to take 200 or 300mg. The thing was I was horny like normal, cause I'm a Guy ok.. But I could not ejaculate. I would go on for maybe 1 hr 1/2 to 2hrs before I could cum. Wife didnt want to have sex with me at all and I couldnt blame her. Were not young teenagers anymore. Were both in our thirties. So now I take 150mg and seem to be down to about 30-45 minutes. I think I also try and consentrate too much on it also. I know some women would love a man to go on for hours, but it can get painfull.
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| Heatherzed
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Posted - 11/11/2005 : 08:24:16
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Think this sort of thing is quite common with all the SSRIs.
My boyfriend takes citaopram (Celexa) and the most common problem with this drug overall is sexual dysfunction in males. The trouble is it never quite specifies extactly what this "dysfunction" is!!
He is like you: he can go on for hours and hours and not ejaculate. Even when he does come, nothing comes out. Apparently there is a thing called retrograde ejaculation where the sperm ends up going back into the penis and ending up in the bladder!? So maybe this is what is happening?
He also says that the orgasms he does have are not so intense as they were without the drug, more like diluted versions. I'm on the same drug and I can say the same, if I manage to come at all. It's all pretty depressing, which is not what you want when you are taking these bloody drugs for depression in the first place. It makes me pretty mad, actually, that these drugs seem to strip you of your sexuality in a way. This is an essential and natural human feeling that is necessary to feel good and normal, and the so-called "feel good" drugs take it all away. AAARGGGHH, it makes me mad!! And, of course, they never even mention it when they prescribe out a ton of anti-depressants to you in the first place.....
Right, I will end now as I have made myself angry.
I can see your wife's side of things, as it does get sore when it goes on for ages, but it is so sad that it is making her relunctant to sleep with you. Whatever you do, try and keep some intimacy, even if it is just kissing and cuddling. That is what we do. Half the time it seems either one or both of us is too tired for sex anyway...we get in from work and then just collapse! You have "to do" lists for other stuff but these never include "have sex", surprisingly enough!! So, sex doesn't just get pushed to the bottom of the list, it was never even on there in the first place!
Good luck with things anyway...
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| Marine_Vet
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Posted - 11/14/2005 : 19:02:55
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Thanks!
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| Marine_Vet
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Posted - 11/14/2005 : 19:09:22
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[quote]Originally posted by Marine_Vet
Thanks!
I find it easier to talk about this stuff on the Net.
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| JMD1970
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Posted - 11/16/2006 : 15:01:30
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I was on Zoloft last year, so I'm not surprised at what you said, although I was the opposite, apart from being a woman  .
While I've been suffering with depression for 19 years (nearly half my life), but I only just became "frigid", for lack of a better word, in the last few years. At least I thought I was frigid until I started taking Celexa last month.
I'm thankful that my fiance has been very supportive since I was diagnosed six months ago with chronic depression, and finally understands why I have been so withdrawn in bed for the last few years, but now...
In the beginning we had a damn good sex life, until the last couple of years when I started to draw away. We went from doing it nearly every other night to every other weekend, around the same time I started taking the Zoloft, which caused so many bad side effects I had to stop taking it. Now that I'm on Wellbutrin, I'm lucky if I'm in the mood once a month.
Then, the other night we (I mean he) started uh...ur...um...you know. Well, after half an hour or so I had to tap him on the shoulder and tell him to give up. I let him finish, if you know what I mean, but I received absolutely no pleasure from it, no matter what he did.
At least with the Zoloft I could get aroused, and occasionally have an orgasm, if you can call it that, but with this Celexa, I'm so far from being aroused, I'm almost turned off. I can just imagine what the honeymoon will be like...the most boring one ever!
It does say on the pharmacist's warning that it causes sexual dysfunction but I figured it was going to be the same with all anti-depressants I've tried...arousal, but nearly no orgasms. Wrong! It causes frigidity in women!
I mentioned it to my doctor, but he figures it's not just the Celexa, it's the depression as well. That doesn't make much sense because until last month I could function to a degree. Now I've got nothing, nada, zip, zero, zilch.
Like Heather said: quote:
This is an essential and natural human feeling that is necessary to feel good and normal, and the so-called "feel good" drugs take it all away.
It seems like we have a choice - we can feel mentally miserable and emotionally ill but still have some form of a sex life.
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We can take these drugs to make us feel better, but sacrifice our sexuality, one of the few things that separates us from animals.
Yup, that sounds real fair to me! 
So, what can we do? Do we pull away from our partners to save them from feeling sexually inadequate and risk them cheating on us, or do we continue to pleasure them all the while feeling like we're performing a chore. If we don't get pleasure from it, it will become a chore sooner or later, no matter how much we love our partner ( trust me, I know: been there, done that).
Joyce
PS: Sex is only 80% of the relationship if you aren't getting any.
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| Justin Thyme
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Posted - 01/08/2007 : 20:19:35
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Semper Fi, vet!
I was in the corps for 11 years....got out in 94.
I'm trying to get this stuff into the VA, since they handled my back problem and pain management anyway. 40% disabled. I'm not sure of the criteria, but from speaking with my family doctor, PTSD is worth looking into.
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| Megpie71
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Posted - 04/21/2007 : 08:07:00
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Yeah, this is a sore point for me as well.
Before I started taking anti-depressants, I was horny as. I masturbated every night (possibly because my synapses were screaming for serotonin however they could get it) and I enjoyed sex a lot (although I had other difficulties which meant that "proper" PIV sex was pretty much out). Since I've started taking anti-depressants - nothing. My libido walked out and hasn't come back. The nearest I get to feeling horny is for a few days toward the end of my cycle, because I have PMS, and it's overriding the blinkin' drug.
When my partner and I do have sex, it's usually unsatisfying. I can get aroused, I can get to a plateau, but orgasm? Not on your nelly. It's the same when masturbating - I can get started, but I can't finish. I mean, okay, yeah, it's nice not to be miserable all the time. But it'd be better to be able to be not miserable *and* enjoy sex, rather than being practically asexual, as at present.
Darn it, I want my orgasms back! *pout*
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Real Daleks don't climb stairs. They level the building.
- Science Fiction convention joke.
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| EmergingArtist
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Posted - 04/21/2007 : 08:29:20
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I doubt you are still around on MT Marine_Vet, but anyway,
My husband is dx with depression. He used to take Paxil; he typically could not reach climax during intercourse while on Paxil. For that reason, he went to Prozac. I am dx bipolar and as one of my meds, I take Prozac. Neither of us have difficulties reaching orgasm during sexual intercourse, however, we are in a phase where we don't have sex very often.
-EA
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| katrinb
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| Larry Longer
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Posted - 09/17/2011 : 12:30:10
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Originally posted by katrinb
Delayed ejaculation is a quite frequent side effect with Zoloft. In fact, Zoloft (http://www.emedexpert.com/facts/sertraline-facts.shtml), like most other SSRIs, is useful in the treatment of premature ejaculation.
There's a good product on the net which I used to help me and that I wrote about on my blog.
You can find info [url=http://www.premature-ejaculation-treatment.youask.org/]here[/url] I hope this helps anyone else also. |
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| davidt
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Posted - 09/17/2011 : 12:36:51
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Hi and welcome to our caring sharing communities Larry...
I trust you get to like it here, David
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Posted - 02/21/2013 : 16:42:39
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i learned alot 6 1/2 years ive been on the site and never visited here
i hope your are all doing well semper fi marines they would not have taken me due to disability. my father was in the marines [ by father i mean role model] at paris island in the late 50's early sixties he was in a ship off cuba around the missle crisis.
my freind like younger brother was an active duty marine in desert shield and storm , he served six years. went other places. after 9/11 he joined the airforce as a medic i think
thanks to all you brave men and women
i cant say anything about sex because im 50 still waiting for my wife to find me , sure im no angel but i havent even kissed a women since 1988 .
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