i am in a rocky marriage. one thing that keeps me around are my children. i am afraid i would lose a custody battle do to my illness. even though my husband has been arrested for domestic violence and drug possession. do i have a chance in hell?
I think Bipolar trumps domestic violence and drug possession--in a heartbeat...(trumps in a good way).
btw, Bipolar Disorder does is not a crime or felony of any kind, whereas the things your hubby has perpetrated seem to be, or am I crazy in making that distinction here?
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Before any custody battle is started, get a letter from your doctor stating they have no concerns with your ability to parent. That's what I was told. That's what I did.
But I'm still scared.
My ex has been convicted of Domestic Assault as well. If you were the victim, keep (or get) copies of the case from the police and the courts. My ex destroyed my files and I'm trying to put it back together now.
But I'm still scared.
Family law is treacherous. All depends on the mood of the judge and his own personal bias. I'm in Ontario and last spring they finally included domestic violence in the "best interests of the child" test. Sometimes, unfortunately, violence doesn't even come into play unless its directly against the kids.
Spoke to a mediator this week and she assured me that his criminal record is worse than my mental health record. Just cuz I'm diagnosed, doesn't mean he's not crazy Actually, here if my pdoc thought I was at risk of harming my kids, by law he's bound to report. So take care of you first.
I managed to get my ex to leave the house (which I own) 8 months ago but have yet to file for custody. I'm letting what's called "de facto" custody become established. Judges don't like to change things without good reason. So that's in my favour.
If you can manage to get him out while the kids are with you, he's basically saying you are fit to parent (whether he realises this or not). The longer de facto is in place the harder it is to change.
is it impossible for a BP person to win custody?
Posted - 01/11/2007 : 14:33:32
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Actually, here if my pdoc thought I was at risk of harming my kids, by law he's bound to report. So take care of you first.
