Hi, can anyone give me some advice please? My partner of only 9 months returned from holiday with me, where we had a wonderful time, to 2 days later, check himself in to a psychiatric hospital as a day patient. He then went up to stay with his family, where he is undergoing ECT and continuing his day care. He has had ECT twice before, when he lost his job and his wife left him, 5 and 6 years ago. But we have not discussed it in great detail. I've emailed him offering sympathy and all my love and support etc, He says he is struggling to concentrate, because he is heavily medicated and finds it difficult to email me. He says he feels ashamed, because he is not the man I thought he was. He says he is sorry to me, because he began our relationship believing he was well and now realises he is "deeply disturbed and fragile, and that he has let me down". He also says he is in complete shock and feels that the last 6 years of getting better, have been a complete waste of time. I'm devastated as I love him to bits. I am also shocked . I respect him completely, and do not want to worry or upset him. As he doesn't want to see me right now, should I take it our relationship is completely over? Should I email him or just leave him alone completely? Thankyou
I would keep in contact with him but let him go at his own pace. As a person on medication myself I can tell you that high doses can make it hard to socialize with others. The meds make you numb and withdrawn.
I'm sorry your friend is going through this. If you feel you really love him and want to stick it out with him you might want to stick around although it may be challenging dealing with this currentbsituation.
Hi Chelle25, Thanks, for your kind and informative advice. I was going to stand aside, but after reading words I will keep up occasional contact. Good luck to you.
ECT and my partner rejecting me.
Posted - 10/30/2013 : 09:02:47
