Hello everyone, i just would like to ask this question does anyoneone understand what is is to be misunderstood and unsupported by your own family, when you are goin through something rough, and they do not want to even begin to understand depressive illnes they look at you (or me as some disase) and want me gone even though i have nowhere to go (live)it makes you feel unloved unwanted and suicidal. can anyone help
OMG YES! I feel like that too. Hell all the time. My husband tends to tell me "Well I can't help you" which I read as "I don't give a damn so don't bother me because I wont help". I get told "It's in Your head" and "That's Your problem!" a lot. It's as if no one cares enough to try to help or understand what I am dealing with. Everyone seems to think all is well so long as MY problems don't interfere with their lives. And the moment MY problem rears it's ugly head I am made to feel badly for it. One would think that your family is supposed to love you and try to help you, but they seem to be the ones who hurt you the most. I feel completely alone in my own home and it's sheer torture. Sometimes I even feel it's done to purposely punish me. Yeah I am paranoid.
This is my first post in the depression forum. I usually post only in bipolar forum.
Sad girl,
Yes, I have experienced feeling misunderstood by my mother and father and sometimes by my husband. I have chosen to cut relations at least for the time being--cut relations with my parents and give myself some breathing space from the dysfunctional ways in which I was brought up. Feeling unloved/unwanted/misunderstood is healthy; it is unhealthy to pretend that folks that are hurting us are fine.
Welcome to the forum - its a place of encouragment and understanding, hope u will find it as beneficial as I have..
I understand too well how your feeling. I hear all the time from people/family around me that "its all in my head", and if i didn't want to be depressed then I wouldn't be. They think its a conscious decision that I wake up in the morning and actually choose to be filld with desperation and despair, AS IF!!! If im having a really hard time (which lately its been hell) hubby says "ohh ohh time for the loony bin again", theres just no excuse for being so callous.
I gave them the information about depression and mental illness and the tools with which to understand it all, but no change in them which is sometihng Ive come to accept but it doesnt make it any easier especially when it comes from loved ones who should be there to support us and offer comfort and encouragment wether they understand it or not.
Well sorry to ramble.. Welcome again and know your not alone. Look forward to reading more posts from you. Hope your having a not too bad day!!.. HUgsssssss
I feel alone and misunderstood every day all the time. most of the time i just want to yell "I'M SAD AND WANT SOMEONE TO LISTEN TO ME" but i don't. I just continue on pretending to be happy!! sometimes i almost convince myself i am happy....until 5 minutes later when I want to die
~JLEED~
"Believing in y ourself never goes out of style!!"
feeling unsupported and unloved.
Posted - 06/17/2006 : 15:49:38
