Maybe you folks can point me in the right direction. I'd like to save my marriage. I'm married to a "generally" wonderful woman. When she's great, she's great, it just doesn't last long. When she's angry, I'm miserable. I'm 50, she's 47. I'm at a point where I have to make a decision weather or not I'll have walk on eggshells the rest of my life and deal with the tantrums and insanity or leave her and have some piece and know what kind of world is waiting for me when I wake up in the morning. It doesn't seem to concern her enough to seek help, I've offered to be involved with it. When I talk about leaving her, she gets better for a while... then eventually it all starts up again.
Is there a forum out there for us folks on the other side of the fence?
First off it's good that you brought up that you thought about leaving her. Letting her know how you feel is the first step. The second step is to hear what she has to say. Communication is key in a marriage especially when you have been together for some time so you know you guys are doing something right. If you feel like it's in your best interest to get up and leave then do so. Just because your 50 doesent mean your life is over. It's actually starting a knew chapter in your life. Your never to old to start something new no matter what anyone says. But if you believe that it will work have faith and believe in her and trust her. She needs to do her part in seeking help or just trying to communicate with you. If she's not willing to do so then what's left? All I can say is have faith in yourself and her.
The other side of the fence
Posted - 07/23/2011 : 08:19:21
