I have been dating a girl for 8 months now. We fell madly in love and it has been very intense. Recently I realised that I have been spending all of my time with her and I miss my friends so I began to hang out with my friends (apart from her) again. She hates this - she says that she always includes me when she hangs out with her friends. The truth is that I don't like her kind of friends. I choose different sort of people to hang out with. So this past week I have sort of distanced myself from her because I felt like I needed space. She is a recovering drug addict, but still has alcohol problems. She came over on Sat night drunk and I gave her some clonazepam (anxiety med) not realising how much she had to drink, as she said she was feeling anxious. She became out of control and slit her wrist superficially. She said she did it to get my attention. I was appalled by her behaviour and stayed up all night looking after her. She always complains about her past gfs who were borderline and cut themselves all the time and now she does it. I put some boundaries in place-I told her not to come to my place drunk again or I would not let her in. I said if she causes a scene, I will call the police (I live with flatmates). Maybe I was too harsh? Now she has come back at me with rules of her own. I didn't do anything and she is putting rules on me. I do drink, but I never behave like that. She always throws things back at me. I don't know what to do.
She sounds so much like my boy friend of almost 2 years. I think what she is doing and the way she is behaving, she needs help before it is too late!! All the best!! Suzie
my partner may be borderline
Posted - 04/26/2009 : 22:44:05
