Hello all mums/dads out there, I am very curios to know what is to come for me as my children grow up in this world. i have a 9yr old a 6yr old and a 2 1/2yr old. Only recently been diagnosed with BP, and also thru family info finding out my symptoms were just as bad if not worse as a child/teen, my wonderful doctor has told me to just keep an eye on my kids behavior patterns as the chances of them inheriting this illness is pretty high. However after telling my very skeptical mother-inlaw this she got mad and said "well dont go looking for it". Then one of my mums friends who has seen me grow up mentioned, before I was diagnosed, that my 6yr old is exactly like me when I was little! That didnt surprise me tho as I have seen lots of my traits in her. The thing is, I dont know where to go with this, i am so scared of them having what i do, I would hate for them to go thru the ups and dwns of BP and all the heartache that comes with it. I get angry that i wasnt diagnosed when I was younger as I may have chosen not to have kids knowing what I know now. I dont even know when to tell them. It breaks my heart to think that they have a high chance of this sufferance, but in saying that if it wasnt for them I may not even be here as they give me alot of strength. I hope they have wonderful lives!!
Hiya neat, dont panic love these things can jump generations. All Mums keep an eye on thier kids behaviour, you'll just be much more aware than most. If one of your kids does have it at least you'll be clued up. You have lots to deal with at the moment and i bet your mind is overrun with swirling thoughts. One step as a time Neat,try and channel your thoughts and actions into the here and now, once you get a good medication regime you'll proberly see an improvement in your coping mechanism. It's really good to hear that you have a great doc, sometimes this is half the battle. Hope you have a positive weekend, take care Ayla
I have the same worries, neatneats, but I think Ayla makes a lot of sense. I'm not going to keep worrying about the genetic thing; after all, there really isn't anything that can be done about that now. In fact, I usually worry more about the chance that I'm teaching her to act "moody" because she wants so much to be like me. I'm just going to do my best to keep it together and try to show my daughter that the obstacles we face in life are meant to be overcome.
i have the same worries. i have been looking for answers to how likely it is that my son is going to be diagnosed. but you can not worry yourself just know that you know what it is like to have it and if your children get it or should i say have it you will know what do do to help them and how to help them cope with it. i have found that you can not think of it as a curse it is part of you and it makes you who you are and that is a good thing
Hey girl, I here what you say.. I have been going thru the stages of this mood disorder since I was constanly moved around by my family being in the military and I personally had a lot of emotional trama having to make new friends.. I am 34 I have a 7 yr old, a 5 yr old, and a 1 1/2 yr old all girls.. and I want you to know its a blessing that you have your children and dont blame yourself at all because you have them now and please trust yourself and put God into your life. Dont listen to those other people who say or label your kids. If they have a disorder later on down the line then deal with it when it happens.. Im saddend to hear that you feel this way and I want to pray for you that the Lord with give you Peace and Strength.. and just because someone says you have this mental disorder doesnt mean you cannot live a proactive life and bring your children up in a positive way.. Luck7
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Posted - 11/05/2005 : 02:43:53
