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lynn2150
Super Incredible Member (10000+ posts)
21329 Posts Gratitude: 2146
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Posted - 09/30/2008 : 16:20:11
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"A Member Shares" My name is Dawn and I am an alcoholic. I did not get sober for sobriety. I got sober to be happy -- because I wasn't when I was using. My topic is change -- specifically how I have changed since I got sober 18+ years ago. These are not things I planned or could possibly have imagined when I was using, but my life now is richer (emotionally and spiritually) than I ever could have believed possible. The "promises" from the Big Book have come true in my life. The major change is that I am happy on a regular basis. Very little gets me down. I can deal with situations that I would have escaped from before. For example, my father was not an easy person to get along with. That is why my mother divorced him. But when I was a few years sober, he was at a point where he was not able to live alone any longer. He was also not a person who could adapt easily to a group situation. So I asked him to come live with me and I took care of him until his death 14 years later. Was this easy? No. Was it the right thing for me to do? Yes. I was able to give back what was given to me as a child. During that time, I learned a lot about myself and my Higher Power. I gained empathy and compassion. I also learned that my happiness is not contingent upon what is happening outside my skin. I learned I did not have to escape through self medication in order to be happy. Happiness is an inside job. That was a big change. This epiphany came into play again last year when my mother had "outpatient" surgery. It was supposed to be minor. Well, it wasn't. She didn't wake up. We knew her wishes to be allowed to die in these circumstances so the doctors withdrew food and water. Sitting with her for 10 days, I realized I was sad to let her go but I was still happy within myself. I was there for HER and unlike the rest of my family (who don't have a program), I could be calm, content, and serene in the situation. I could focus my energies on her and not myself. I don't know what I would have done if I had been drinking, but I am sure it would not have been positive. I would have fed into my family's insanity. When my brother died a few years ago, Mom got mad at god. Fury was at her core. While I was sitting with her, Mom actually became conscious. She tried to talk and, somehow, we did communicate. Because I know MY higher power, I could help her reconnect with the higher power of HER understanding. That gave her the peace she needed to let go. She died on my late brother's birthday. He was her favorite and she is with him. If I had not been sober and centered by HP, I don't know who would have helped her make spiritual peace so she could transition easily. What I learned in sobriety gave me the strength to help her -- when the rest of the family was falling apart and getting nasty. I was always the dishonest, disreputable kid who escaped reality. Through AA, I became able to handle and to learn from situations that emotionally strain others. I don't have to run from them and although I don't necessarily enjoy them, they "center" me. I become calm and even content. My joy is within and I no longer run away trying to find it. My life is richer and the insights my Higher Power provide are greater than anything I could imagine. Does this mean life is easy? No. Materially, I am broke. Physically, I am in constant pain. But spiritually and emotionally I am happier than I have ever been. And it keeps getting better with time. So the changes I have found in sobriety are that I have found myself -- and the higher power of MY understanding. These two constants are always with me. Even in the worst situations, I can usually find beauty. I can see miracles. I can laugh. And that is worth more to me than gold, drugs, alcohol, or anything else this world can provide. I am HAPPY and that is what I wanted when I got sober. I hope you are happy too! dawn This Story, was taken from a Recovery Group. Thank you to Dawn, for her honest contribution. ____________________________________________________ Smorgasbord Section |
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jacobsmom
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11 Posts Gratitude: 5
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Posted - 11/24/2008 : 19:22:57
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I just wanted to say thanks...Dawn is an inspiration of recovery!!!!!!
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jo73
Amazing Member (1000+ posts)
1407 Posts Gratitude: 168
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Posted - 11/25/2008 : 17:08:13
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good topic lynn as u all know im a bad drinking and have been told my blood tests say im drinking more than double the the limit i know i should give up i also know i need to give up but i think it depends on curcumstance and suport that people get . i have some will power to give up but my curcumstances with me dad and other things make it really hard this may just sound like a excuse to other people but i find it really hard and have no suport . hugs jo ps feels strange posting again
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lynn2150
Super Incredible Member (10000+ posts)
21329 Posts Gratitude: 2146
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Posted - 02/10/2009 : 20:53:05
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I think I'm co-dependant ! My happiness depends on your recovery ! There is a group called, "Dynamics of Recovery" I guarantee, they would know what to do. I guarantee, much love and support, It would be possible for you to belong to this group and that one too. Jim and Jeff run it, everyone there is top notch, and recovering from drugs, alcohol, many things. I should post, a link I'll try now, http://www.Dynamicsofrecovery.com darn, didn't work. Will try again later.
Note to self: ask God what His plans are, for me, for the day. . |
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lynn2150
Super Incredible Member (10000+ posts)
21329 Posts Gratitude: 2146
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Posted - 02/10/2009 : 20:57:34
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http://groups.msn.com/AlcoholicsAnonymousNewcomer Jo, please check out this site, you can belong to this site and this new one. It's worth a shot. no pun intended. Lynn
Note to self: ask God what His plans are, for me, for the day. . |
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jo73
Amazing Member (1000+ posts)
1407 Posts Gratitude: 168
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Posted - 02/11/2009 : 01:42:33
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thanx lynn i will check it out but will still be staying a memeber of mt if im still welcome im going to sort my life out and in the process of u guys helping me i want to b able to help or at least offer advice to others because of my experiences especially with the beer
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strangers
Amazing Member (1000+ posts)
1568 Posts Gratitude: 389
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Posted - 05/31/2009 : 02:35:31
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quote: Originally posted by lynn2150
"A Member Shares" My name is Dawn and I am an alcoholic. I did not get sober for sobriety. I got sober to be happy -- because I wasn't when I was using. My topic is change -- specifically how I have changed since I got sober 18+ years ago. These are not things I planned or could possibly have imagined when I was using, but my life now is richer (emotionally and spiritually) than I ever could have believed possible. The "promises" from the Big Book have come true in my life. The major change is that I am happy on a regular basis. Very little gets me down. I can deal with situations that I would have escaped from before. For example, my father was not an easy person to get along with. That is why my mother divorced him. But when I was a few years sober, he was at a point where he was not able to live alone any longer. He was also not a person who could adapt easily to a group situation. So I asked him to come live with me and I took care of him until his death 14 years later. Was this easy? No. Was it the right thing for me to do? Yes. I was able to give back what was given to me as a child. During that time, I learned a lot about myself and my Higher Power. I gained empathy and compassion. I also learned that my happiness is not contingent upon what is happening outside my skin. I learned I did not have to escape through self medication in order to be happy. Happiness is an inside job. That was a big change. This epiphany came into play again last year when my mother had "outpatient" surgery. It was supposed to be minor. Well, it wasn't. She didn't wake up. We knew her wishes to be allowed to die in these circumstances so the doctors withdrew food and water. Sitting with her for 10 days, I realized I was sad to let her go but I was still happy within myself. I was there for HER and unlike the rest of my family (who don't have a program), I could be calm, content, and serene in the situation. I could focus my energies on her and not myself. I don't know what I would have done if I had been drinking, but I am sure it would not have been positive. I would have fed into my family's insanity. When my brother died a few years ago, Mom got mad at god. Fury was at her core. While I was sitting with her, Mom actually became conscious. She tried to talk and, somehow, we did communicate. Because I know MY higher power, I could help her reconnect with the higher power of HER understanding. That gave her the peace she needed to let go. She died on my late brother's birthday. He was her favorite and she is with him. If I had not been sober and centered by HP, I don't know who would have helped her make spiritual peace so she could transition easily. What I learned in sobriety gave me the strength to help her -- when the rest of the family was falling apart and getting nasty. I was always the dishonest, disreputable kid who escaped reality. Through AA, I became able to handle and to learn from situations that emotionally strain others. I don't have to run from them and although I don't necessarily enjoy them, they "center" me. I become calm and even content. My joy is within and I no longer run away trying to find it. My life is richer and the insights my Higher Power provide are greater than anything I could imagine. Does this mean life is easy? No. Materially, I am broke. Physically, I am in constant pain. But spiritually and emotionally I am happier than I have ever been. And it keeps getting better with time. So the changes I have found in sobriety are that I have found myself -- and the higher power of MY understanding. These two constants are always with me. Even in the worst situations, I can usually find beauty. I can see miracles. I can laugh. And that is worth more to me than gold, drugs, alcohol, or anything else this world can provide. I am HAPPY and that is what I wanted when I got sober. I hope you are happy too! dawn This Story, was taken from a Recovery Group. Thank you to Dawn, for her honest contribution. ____________________________________________________ Smorgasbord Section
fantstic story lynn. thanks for sharing with us .... i also was addicted to ritalin and I quit it about 2 month ago I feel really alot changes.
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davidt
Super Incredible Member (10000+ posts)
82944 Posts Gratitude: 2519
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Posted - 06/01/2009 : 12:48:49
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There's no problem so great... that alcohol won't make worse, if like me you are a recovering alcoholic! David
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stevewilliams
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Posted - 09/28/2010 : 23:11:08
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I like the story very much. I also want to quit my alcohol habit. I think i should learn from you. I am not a regular user but sometimes i took alcohol but i want to get rid of this activity soon.
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