Looking for some advice......my daughter, who will be 15 in a month confided to me this evening that she has been purging about "3 or 4 times a week" for approximately the last 6 months. She had a tonsillectomy a week ago and because she has been unable to eat much has lost 6 lbs. Her recovery is progressing normally, the normal sore throat after surgery, but she seems to be getting better every day. She has been weepy the past couple of days, and I just attributed it to her being miserable after surgery. Tonight I realized that something was bothering her and I sat down with her and she told me that a couple of things were bothering her....she first expressed being really upset that my 19 year old son smokes (he has been smoking a pack per day since he was 15). Then she said that something else was bothering her and she finally told me about the purging. She is 5'5" and maybe a little overweight for her height but nowhere near obese. She was 156 before the surgery and now is 150. She perceives herself as fat. I have always had an issue with my weight and am currently on a weight loss plan. I have gone from 226 to 199 since the beginning of this year. We have talked about the dangers of purging and I knew that she was skipping a few meals occasionally, but I had no idea that she was purging at all. She told me tonight that she would like to get to 135. This would be a reasonable weight for her height and I told her that she could do that easily through a balanced diet and exercise. She is not real good about eating fruits and vegetables and eats primarily protein and starches. She realizes the dangers of purging and feels that she can stop on her own. She doesn't want to talk to a therapist. Should I wait and see and give her a chance, or do I insist that she talk to a therapist? I assured her that I love her regardless of how much she weighs and I only want her to be happy! She also wants this kept between us and doesn't want me to tell my husband....I would appreciate any input anyone has. Thanks.